So much happened…so little changed. 

Public updates have been few and far between this year for several reasons. We have received each and everyone one of your prayers, well wishes and private messages seeking good news about Abbigail and we whole heartedly appreciate them all. Thank you for never forgetting about our precious girl and her battles. It has been a long year with many difficult times but we’ve also had many joys to celebrate as well. Looking back is always bitter sweet, seeing all that we’ve been through, all that Abbigail has accomplished and how far she’s come, but also seeing all that we’ve missed, all the milestones she’s not attained and all that is still ahead for her. Over the last year so much has happened yet so very little has changed. 

Abbigail’s last year started out very roughly with an agressive OMS relapse leaving her relying on her feeding tube for nutrition, losing weight daily, unable to be a kid, stumbling, missing school, in pain, extremely exhausted and overly irritable. We quickly had to increase her medications, double up her in hospital IV treatments every two weeks and watch her body and mind transform again…not for the better. Relapses are very difficult in her body and cognition and sadly result in further brain damage. Although she was able to recover from the acute OMS symptoms, she has not been able to reverse any damage nor reach remission neurologically.  Despite these difficulties though, Abbigail managed to successfully change schools in September and prove that she is capable of so much more than we ever thought! Change is difficult for Abbigail, so this decision to switch schools was not taken lightly and was a challenge for us all however it was so worth it! Her old school has always been so supportive of her and our family and was sad to see her go but it was with their support that we were able to transition Abbigail and all of her services. They will always have a huge place in her heart and mine because I watched my sick little girl light up and bloom so much when she walked through their doors. They set the bar high for her education and support. Thank you will never be enough ❤️ Now that she attends an english speaking school Abbigail has reached levels of speech we didn’t think we’d ever witness, her motor skills and academics have made leaps and bounds which I have strongly attributed to her amazing support system there that has allowed for her growing confidence to shine. I can’t explain to you how it feels to see her accomplishments on paper and to hear her speak about her pride in what she is doing with her peers. You can’t help but smile when you see her light up. 

We couldn’t be prouder of how hard she is working in class! She surprises us daily and hearing her stories from her day brings me so much joy knowing how it “could be” instead of how it is…at least for today. 

Turns out so much happened that I can’t fit it into one post. 

Has it really been that long!?

It’s hard to believe that it has been over six months since my last update.  Abbigail has fought so hard, to come so far, over the last four years, but she has made most of her leaps and bounds these past few months alone. 

  
Just over six months ago Abbigail was once again facing huge life threatning battles that no child should have to. She was admitted to the hospital for a septic blood infection that was, without surprise, rare and not easily treated without strong antibacterial infusions. She spent three long weeks in hospital, mustering the strength to push out the monsters threatning her body and ultimately her life. Once the infections were under control, we were back to discussing the multiple and progressive nodules forming in her liver. Were they an anomaly or more cancer? No one could be sure because nothing with Abbigail has been text book up until that point and everything documented to date has not been able to discount further neoplasm (cancer).  After numerous challenging and cautious fine-needle biopsies, we faced the dreaded consent form for an open liver biopsy and possible resection. Slicing and dicing a liver is never simple or clear cut and isn’t without immense risk for morbidity and even mortality. An other human being, possibly a father himself, had to ask us specifically if we understood that once we left our baby girl in his care, on that cold table, that she possibly may not wake up or that if she did, she would not be the same. Is this even part of real life? Often I find myself wondering these questions. That morning, I signed my name on the dotted line, giving consent to surgeons to open our daughter’s entire thoracic area and examine it for further cancer or at the very least remove a portion for lab analysis. Then I waited. I waited and stared at her empty bed on the fourth floor of CHEO, a place we’ve considered home for far too many years and I waited for the nurse to say she was out of surgery. When the desk clerk’s phone rang that time, I knew it was about Abbigail. I dashed to the elevator, flush, nauseated and petrified. What would he say as he removes his mask and sterile cap? What happened these last few hours in that cold sterile room? Where is my girl? Before he could speak I layed my eyes on her ragged body in recovery and sighed in relief. I sat at her bedside until her intubation tube was removed and she was awake enough to know I was there. The surgeon who has cut into our daughter more times than I can count, along with the radiologist who has invested numerous days and hours analyzing her multiple liver images and studying her nodules, smiled as they both confirmed that surgery was a success. They also confirmed the lab had enough liver sample to examine and diagnose these nodules without having to fully resect an entire lobe of her liver.  After a long few days of epidural pain management, drug reactions and rehabilitation, we were finally transferred from the surgical and rehab unit back to our “home” unit on the oncology ward. Ten long days later, we received  exhilarating  news that it was not cancer but that further lab testing was required from SickKids hospital in Toronto before we could know exactly what the lesions are. Abbigail was feeling better, not eating much by mouth and still recouperating  from an extensive thoracic surgery, but we still could not be discharged. Now, almost a month in hospital, barely home a day or two from our Florida trip, realizing we are never free from this world as we face our worst fears all over again.  After much debate and review from many specialists, near and far, Abbigail was diagnosed with a rare disposition of extramedullary hematopoiesis. Abbigail received large doses of chemotherapy last year, and the theory is that her body has not been able to keep up with blood production post transplant and her bone marrow now is producing blood cells outside of her marrow (i.e. in her organs). This new diagnosis only added to her complicated medical care. Two incurable rare diseases battling inside of our five year old little girl’s body, that has yet to recover from years of cancer treatment and a life altering stem cell transplant that ultimately saved her life last fall. Her scars are gigantic – physical and emotional, but we finally went home after a long month of close calls in hospital. Despite being “out of the woods,” Abbigail now faced new hurdles and we didn’t know then just how big they truly were. 

   
 Abbigail had more than a hundred nodules confined to her liver. Continuously monitoring their activity with imaging and although they had not stopped multiplying, they had yet to spread to other organs. Also closely monitoring her liver health with regular blood work to ensure that these lesions did not affect the basic functions she desperately needed. Abbigail was tired, her entire body covered in cuts, bruises, catheters and scars. Smiling for photos with an NG tube still taped to her sensitive cheek, she didn’t let any of this stop her this summer. We spent every day possible, that we weren’t at CHEO, at our camp. Roasting marshmallows, wading in the waters, making forts and sand castles while chasing the boys. She even made a few new friends and won the hearts of every single other camper in the park. There wasn’t anyone who didn’t know who Abbigail was after her first week there. Memories were cemented in our hearts and despite the hurdles, the pain and sacrifices that don’t cease, we were blessed with an entire summer without a single night in hospital! 

   
   
Once camp season came to a close and the leaves began to fall, Abbigail started school! Something I never allowed myself to think of again after last year because we were so focused on her treatment and survival. She has been surprising us and everyone else with her abilities and potential. She is speaking so many more words. She can now even understand French a bit. She has learned routine, made friends and been able to detach herself from me. Her learning is greatly affected due to the extensive damage to her brain from the OMS as well as the four years of dozens of repeated chemotherapies, but that does not stop her from always trying.  She is part of a regular classroom with all of the support she requires to thrive. We are so proud! 

   
  
 Our spitfire never lets life settle down though, just as she adapted to the new routine, stopped crying when I dropped her off and began to have less OMS episodes at school we were facing difficult decisions regarding her overall health. Abbigail had started losing weight very quickly and without reason other than her appetite and eating habits. Post liver surgery, they inserted an NG tube for her nutrition because when a child has such a huge abdominal surgery, they are not able eat for days due to their “guts” being stunned and paralyzed, meaning unable to digest. So after a week of not eating, having huge stomach pain inside and out, her appetite that was finally returning post transplant had now taken a nose dive. Since June, she continued to lose weight and struggle with her appetite. In September, she had lost a few pounds and it was evident now in her face and it wasn’t long before doctors and specialists were considering a more permanent feeding solution. Abbigail was 50lbs in the summer and although it was an unhealthy weight for her height, we knew it was temporary and that it was caused by steroids. Presently Abbigail is holding at 35 pounds. 

  
That 15 pound lose in a short period of 3 months had us remove the NG tube (in her nose) and have a surgically implanted g-tube directly into her stomach. After almost 5 months without a night in hospital, Abbigail and I were cuddling under nurse and doctor supervision, in the very familiar and oddly enough, comforting walls of her second home once again. December 7th she received her new “tubie” and again our trusted surgeon was successful in cutting through the layers of scar tissue in her abdomen to have the new device inserted. Only a few days to recover from yet again an other stunned tummy surgery and we were home to begin the holiday season with new hope for recovery from yet an other hurdle in the journey. 

   
 This Christmas should have been different though. For so many reasons. We never imagined still being in such a fight for our daughter and we never imagined experiencing the loss that we have. Being a part of a world where kids have cancer and it is normal, becomes scarier the longer you are in it. You form friendships, extend your family and fall in love with the strongest, bravest and most beautiful young souls that walk the earth. When things are good, in cancer world relative terms of course, we laugh, have private little room parties and make today count because we know how fragile it is. We often fall prey to thoughts of tomorrow and we allow ourselves to believe that it will all be ok one day…that is, until it’s not. 

  

   

 November 18th was not ok. Abbigail’s closest friend earned her angel wings far too early. Phoebe left this earth, forever 5 years old. She left her pain, suffering and sadness behind with her grieving mama, daddy, big sister and many family and friends. For Phoebe’s family, tomorrow is now too hard to face because today is already so painful without her here. My heart has been aching since that day. Abbigail  understands Phoebe is gone, that we can no longer visit or play with her and that we can only see her in our photos and videos but she often asks “but mama where Phoebe?” It breaks my heart on so many levels. Losing Phoebe was harder than I could have ever imagined it would be. Christmas this year was bittersweet. We weren’t in intense treatment, there were no life-threatening emergencies or hospital sleep overs and for that we were blessed and grateful. But we also felt a huge sense of lose and guilt. Every twinkling light had new meaning, each gift unwrapped was a reminder that not everyone was so lucky. The kids were spoiled and had “the best Christmas ever” visiting family and making memories but I couldn’t help but carry the guilt with me. My friends also got to spend the holidays out of hospital for the time in five years too but for very different reasons. Phoebe’s passing hurt. It was painful. Unfair. Phoebe lives on though and will forever be our Christmas angel, reminding us to never lose faith and hope, just as she never did! As the years pass, treatments continue and Abbigail grows up, she will forever have Phoebe in her heart, watching over her…that I believe.   
Today, Abbigail continues to receive immunosuppressive therapies both in hospital and at home. She goes to CHEO for infusion treatments every two weeks and continues with her daily oral treatments at home. Her medication list, for treatment and for symptoms caused by the treatments, is still very long and disheartening but in a world where there is very little known about her disease we do not have many options left. We are currently trying to slowly taper her off of the very aggressive steroid treatments she’s been on for four years in hopes that we don’t create the perfect storm in her body for an OMS relapse. If she regresses once the steroids exit her system completely we will have hit a wall in treatment options. 

  

    

For those new to Abbigails journey or for anyone who is still confused about OMS, it is a rare (1 in 10 million) disease that presently is without a cure. Children who are doing well with OMS today are said to be in “neurological remission” however are prey to relapse or regression at any time and it is believed by the few specialists in the world, that these children will suffer several of these relapses in a lifetime. A regression could present itself as slight shakiness and imbalance, darting eyes, uncontrollable and aggravated behaviour, insomnia, muscle jerks and trunk or full body ataxia. These small symptoms can be triggered by any immune response; which are fatigue, stress (physical and mental), certain medications and sedatives or the more obvious, infections. Once the immune system is triggered, Abbigail’s brain is caught in a crossfire. Simply put, OMS is an immune disease characterized by her immune system being programmed to attack particular cells which were present in her cancerous tumours but that are also present in her brain. This means that part of her brain, the part that controls movement, stability, speech, some learning and development as well as behaviour and sleep, have the identical cells that her cancer has. When Abbigail’s immune system is activated, it begins to fight and destroy the cells in her brain, causing multiple cells to misfire and often creating the perfect environment for brain damage and that is when we begin to see the symptoms described above. If the damage caused is extensive enough, the regression in Abbigail’s abilities and functions could quickly become a relapse in the disease, requiring more than patience and antiviral or antibiotic treatment. During a relapse, OMS must be stopped as quickly as possible to minimize the permanent brain damage that is occurring. At diagnoses, the peak of her illness, and when she has relapsed in the past, She has completely lost the ability to speak, slurring her sounds, has also lost control of her trunk, losing the ability to even sit up on her own, she’s even lost her ability to walk and crawl during relapses and self feeding was impossible. This is when we would begin more chemotherapy, new experimental drugs and stronger immunosuppressive treatments to stop her immune system from functioning, putting her back in that vulnerable and dangerous state she knows all too well. 

So this is where Abbigail finds herself in treatment today. Hopeful we can wean her off of the treatments that are affecting her growth and long term bone health but also fearful to remove the drugs that have kept her brain safe from relapses over the last two years. She has done each and every treatment protocol and trial available to children in Canada and the US to date and is still unable to wean from the destructive drugs keeping her immune system at bae. 

I can’t thank you all enough for your support and prayers throughout this journey and for checking in over the last few months during my online absense. Abbigail and our family is continuously blessed by you all! Thank you!

She continues to laugh and spread her joy!

In Abbigail’s mind, there is always laughter to be had and smiles to be shared.

Today she beamed down the halls of the hospital, waving to the many staff she has come to know and cherish; the cafeteria cook and cashier, the pharmacy assistant, the coffee shop ladies who keep mama awake and the ultrasound techs who took care of her baby cousin. She was such a proud big girl today, showing off her baby cousin and ensuring he knows his way around CHEO. While he was meeting his new doctors and having his first CHEO experience, she was doing routine central line maintenance, having her lines “unclogged” and blood work drawn for her weekly virology tests.

She doesn’t understand the details behind her diagnosis, she doesn’t know anything different than the multiple weekly visits to CHEO, treatments, surgeries, “sleepy time” (anaesthetic) and clinics. Abbigail is blessed with the naivety of a baby, not understanding why strangers are intruding in their personal space, but knowing their parents will keep them safe. Abbigail is still very much like her 4 month old baby cousin today, even at the beautiful age of almost five. She doesn’t know that she has a rare and incurable disease for which she has battled for three years and continues to. She doesn’t realize that the “medicine” that saved her life twice already, received through her central lines, aka “tubies,” is in fact chemotherapy and that it could cause future, secondary cancers, and life long, sometimes detrimental side effects. Abbigail is graced with a certain ignorance despite having her innocence robbed from her three years ago.

Tomorrow she will walk back into CHEO to have her liver scanned. It shouldn’t be long before we have more information and before we have a plan forward…something to cling onto and pray for.

Please keep her in your prayers tomorrow morning and envision a “healthier” liver for our princess. She deserves to register for kindergarten and not have to withdraw again this year.

Thank you everyone for all of the support!

February 23rd…

On the floor, covered in sanitized mats for her own protection from both germs and her unstable stature, nail painting as we pass the hours until her MRI. This will be her second MRI in two days. It’s been 2 full days of strictly IV fluids, no food or drinking, since February 21st at midnight. As she gazes at her pretty pink nail polish, I can’t stop thinking about what today will bring. Yesterday was my most difficult day as a mother; I laid my limp child in the arms of a stranger and watched them tape her eyes shut and connect her to a breathing machine, before entering her into the MRI machine. A parent’s worst fears were began at that moment and little did we know, that we were going to be the main characters of this awful nightmare. That was my worst day as a mother. Today will be different. How could today possibly be any worse I asked myself…

That was three years ago. To the day. February 23rd 2012.

I can’t remember much these days, my brain is constantly on overdrive, but I can recall exactly what I was doing, at this very moment, three years ago.

I remember what the doctors were saying behind the curtains, the fear in my husband’s silence, the tears rolling down our baby’s face as we held her down for the tenth time in two days, my heartache as they poked and prodded her tiny frail and shivering body over and over again. I remember it all. I can still hear my little boy’s voice over the phone, wondering why, for the first time ever in his 4 years, that his mama and dada had to abruptly leave him without any idea of when we would return with his baby sister. I remember not wanting to take too many pictures of this ugly new world because I didn’t want to have to remember any of it. I will never forget the 4 doctors who walked into our isolation room, shut the door behind them and lowered the volume of the Young and the Restless I had on in the background. It was 4:56pm. Abbigail was finally able to eat something after two long days of sedated tests. These doctors’ faces no longer appeared puzzled. What was once a mystery to almost every discipline in the hospital, was no longer. They now knew…what had been haunting our dear girl’s body all this time, had been found that morning. Although in complete shock, I finally was able to be honest with myself, because in my heart, I already knew. So here I was, alone with Abbigail, teaching her how to hold her fork all over again, and these 4 doctors, no longer puzzled as they smiled at Abbigail, and I noticed that yet again we have a new face in our room, whom we haven’t met yet. Neurology was no longer in the room, neither was genetics. This new gentle voice introduced himself, tagged with his profession, and that is all I needed to hear for our world to change forever. After days of sedation, hours of uncomfortable tests, over a dozen IVs and recounting the last months and days of our lives to every doctor and student in the building, four words is all it took. “I am an oncologist.” I have often wondered how these doctors could bring such terrible news to families day after day. “We found a mass on Abbigail’s kidney that has taken over her left adrenal gland,” he explained, “she has cancer and we need to remove it,” as they handed me the box of kleenex, and I remember Abbigail’s precious little baby face staring up at my tears, not even two years old yet, surely wondering what was mommy upset about. “She has cancer.” The entire time they were talking, explaining and trying to reassure me, all I could hear was “Cancer, she has cancer.” I must have blacked out for a few minutes, because the next thing I remember thinking to myself was how will I tell Matthew. He was on his way back to the hospital with our 4 year old to spend the weekend together. When he walked into our room, I didn’t have to say anything. The cold air, my silence and the way I held and looked into Abby’s eyes, he knew…

That was the fateful day; the culmination of all those weeks and months of wondering and worrying what was wrong with Abbigail. Nothing was the same ever again. Not our home, our family, our children, our marriage, even our hopes and dreams changed because from that day forward we could never forget…the life we lived,up until that day, changed drastically, with a few little words. It is often too painful to dream now, to hope and to plan for the future. Three years ago our world came crashing down on us. Matthew was sleeping in his car while I cried on a chair next to our tangled daughter in a cold barred crib. Three years ago we had to erase things off of our family calendar and replace them with countless hospital stays, chemo appointments and new therapy sessions. Although we lost so much that day, I can’t ignore the fact that we also gained so much too. Perspective. Strength. Understanding and compassion. New friends we can call family…and a closeness to one an other we never had before. Without all that we wouldn’t have been able to survive these last three years. Without all that we won’t survive the next three either. Cancer can be cured and Cancer may never come back for some but Cancer never leaves without a trace. It will always be part of who we are and how we live…sometimes bringing good and often times shedding light on the bad, but that is Cancer and we have adjusted.

This is going to hurt.

Three years ago we were told that we should have high hopes for Abbigail’s recovery and that with surgery to remove the tumour, and 6 months of chemo and an other 6 months of immunosuppressant therapy, that we should begin to see our little girl out of the hospital and off all of her medications and therapies. Three years ago we were naive and had the strength to hold tightly onto to hope.

Today is so different.

Today is three years after that day. Today we struggle to see any light at the “end.” Today we find it difficult to cope with the next hour, let alone the next treatment. Abbigail is still in recovery post transplant, she is systemically immunocompromised and she can’t attend school on so many levels. Today Abbigail is two months shy of being five years old and to an outsider, she appears to be barely two. Three years later, we still call CHEO home and spend more time there than anywhere else. Sadly, today, Abbigail is no closer to being that fearless and healthy sweet girl we saw giggling and running with her big brother so long ago. You could easily say that she is back to where she was three years ago, with the exception now that she has been through far too much over the years and is exhausted and has exhausted so many treatment options that were once full of hope. Today that “hope” that existed back then, even a after the devastating word “Cancer,” has slowly faded. Quite frankly, today Abbigail is in a worse position medically, developmentally and emotionally than she has ever been in her short life.

It isn’t news to most; that we are still devastated that her last chance at controlling her OMS, with the dangerous and experimental stem cell transplant she underwent last fall, may not have worked as we hoped. We are still struggling to manage her symptoms and relapses of OMS with each illness that comes her way. Over the last few days we’ve watched her limp, fall and completely lose control of her motor function in her legs. It is likely caused by the UTI she got again last week, which activated her immune response and allowed the OMS to take over again. Her sleeplessness and exhaustion do not help with her behaviour and cognitive functions, she’s in constant battle, with decreasing moments of contentment with each day that passes. OMS is still very much present, active and destroying our beautiful girl’s livelihood. Today, much like three years ago, we are consumed with fear. Today, the lack of knowledge and information, much as it has been during this entire journey, is paralyzing most days. We’ve searched long and hard for information regarding OMS, it’s prognosis and treatment and we’ve connected and had Abbigail surgically and physically assessed by one of the only world leaders in this disease. Yet, here we are, three years later, no closer to remission and with far less options than we had before. Much the same has been for her Cancer. Almost three years after they resected her tumour completely and told us how rare it is, for a child with OMS and Abbigail’s presentation, to ever relapse with more Cancer of this kind, here we find ourselves.

Today we fear a third possible recurrence.

You may recall that since Christmas Eve, we have been trying to ignore the 9 new lesions within Abbigail’s liver. Since then, she has been biopsied, in two different locations, having resected 5 separate core samples of her lesions. She’s had an MRI and 2 ultrasounds, all which have brought up our worst fears all over again. The recent biopsies have not provided any definitive answers to date. All we have been told is that they are “unsuitable for pathological diagnosis” but that all of the cultures of the samples studied returned no bacterial, fungal or viral growth. Again, we are faced with the uncertainty and fears associated with that unknown factor.

Today, three years after hearing our daughter has cancer, we can’t help but fear hearing those words again. Abbigail is about to undergo one more scan, to see if these liver nodules have changed and what the next steps are.

Three years…our baby girl is almost five! I’m so proud! Please continue to pray for our girl and the far too many other little children and share this so that everyone knows KIDS GET CANCER TOO & CAN’T FIGHT ALONE!

Getting through more tough days…

Since that dreadful call on Christmas Eve, I have been consummed with fears and questions, both of which have yet to be relieved or answered.

Abbigail has had an MRI and ultrasound of her liver since returning from transplant and they both reveal the same differential diagnosis and affirmation of my fears. These nodules found to be growing and multiplying within her liver, aside from her never disappearing liver tumour treated with 8 cycles of chemotherapies last year, are suspect of further metastasis, PTLD (post transplant complication involving further cancer) or infection. We have consulted with liver specialists and infectious disease and they have all suggested a biopsy to evaluate a tissue sample from the “spots” to see what they are because blind treatment could result in further damage. So could time…I am pushing as hard as I can to get these procedures and tests completed as soon as possible because in my heart and my gut, I don’t feel this is “nothing to worry about” and time has only hurt our baby girl in the past.

So as Abbigail struggles most days to keep her temper under wraps, tame her irritability and muster the energy to be a kid, we are worrying and trying to get everything organized to face anything thrown our way. We thought for sure we would be enjoying a new life by now, but despite the odds we are continuously being thrown, we won’t stop fighting!

This fight is nearing three years and this past year we have received more support and generosity than ever before…than we could have ever dreamed of or prayed for. We have so many people, families and organizations to thank. We will post a formal thank you to everyone shortly and hope that everyone knows just how much each and everyone of you means to us and how much we appreciate your support; whether it be monetary, emotional or through prayers and kind words. We thank you ALL!

One of the recent fundraisers, in support of Abbigail, is the CNL Black Bears Charity Hockey Tournament being held this week. Colleagues of mine at CNL (Canadian Nuclear Laboratories – formerly AECL) have for ten years raised money, for local charities, through their annual hockey tournament.

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Last year they raised a huge amount of funds which were in support of both the Pembroke MRI fund as well as a colleague family with a child in medical fragility. Much the same this year they have again chosen the MRI fund in addition to Kisses For Abbigail. We couldn’t be more blessed and humbled by this. We would love for our family and friends to go out and support this huge team of generous and kind heart hockey enthusiasts who chose Abbigail to pray for and raise funds for this year.

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We hope that everyone has a week of fun filled ice time while we continue to look further into Abbigail’s liver tumours and we look forward to hearing about all of the fun the kids had during the festivities. Please send me photos of the event, Abbigail will one day look back on her supporters throughout her battles.

DAY +23 Post Transplant Highs and Lows

The last couple weeks since the discovery of this virus, which invaded our little girl’s body, have been physically and emotionally draining for Abbigail, myself and our family. There have been so many ups and downs, highs and lows and far too much uncertainty.

Abbigail began to show signs of improvement come Monday, she was feeling more energetic and less irritable. She had longer periods of “play” and was able to tolerate increased tube feeds.

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That progress was swiftly stolen as she had to undergo an other surgery to replace her central line that had caused her so much torture, pain and frustration the week prior. She went into surgery breaking my heart with her fearful and terrorized cries, and she came out with a new but equally frustrating line, more bruises than I have ever seen, a large hematoma on her neck and shoulder and a few more scars added to her battered body.

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Progressively throughout the week I watched her wakeful moments get shorter and further apart, I anxiously tracked her lowering blood counts and I feared we may be facing a bigger monster than “they” believe. I knew this virus and the treatment to help tame the virus could potentially affect her counts however the doctors were confident that because she ENGRAFTED this week, that it wouldn’t affect her too much. That does not seem to be the case and I am sad to report that her engraftment was not hugely celebrated, as it should have been.

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I am happy to say that it isn’t all bad; Abbigail still sits up and paints my if toe nail some mornings, she still fights the nurses on vitals and she always smiles when the clown pops in her room. She was at one point last week, laughing, playing and joking around like there was nothing wrong…this was hugely celebrated and noticed by all! She appeared so well “clinically” that her team felt she was ready to be transferred to our home hospital! There was talk that we would aim to have everything in place for a transfer this Tuesday. The thought of taking Abbigail out of this protective “bubble” and into the world outside these unit doors has me in knots. The fear of what I know is possible is sometimes paralyzing but I can not let that fear interfere with Abbigail’s healing or recovery. Going closer to home, to a hospital she has grown up in, with her friends and familiar faces would bring a type of healing we can’t find here. So I quickly set my fears aside and celebrated this milestone the way it should be celebrated! Abbigail has been talking about seeing her Daddy, Molly Penny (home hospital clown), Pam and Jen and all her warrior friends. She was so happy when I told her what would be happening soon.

Unfortunately, over the last 48-72 hours, I feel we have gone backwards again. We are back to her sleeping all the time, aches and pains, higher heart rates, creeping temperatures and highly noticeable OMS symptoms…which all lead me to fear possible secondary infections or the virus spreading further and faster.

We are still holding on to hope that we can keep her stable enough to travel to CHEO next week, but reality is that we are constantly at the mercy of illness, OMS and the world of cancer.

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Sweet dreams my girl. Rest your body. Mama is always here…

DAY +18 – The road less travelled

Would you believe me if I told you my neutropenic but afebrile girl was sick? If her vitals were only slightly elevated would you think I was paranoid? Do you think you know enough about OMS because you read an article and a few pages of her chart? What if I insisted something was wrong, would you believe me then?

Abbigail is 1 in 10 million! She defies all odds and sneaks within every minority she possibly can; always the star of the unlikely and rare! It is near impossible to apply any expectations to her recovery post transplant and if she can, she will take the road less travelled! She’s a true warrior, paving her own way and leaving her mark. She doesn’t need to scare us as much but we are proud of her always, blessed and honoured to be her parents.

A week ago I was running on little sleep, no calorie intake and likely only enough water to flush out the caffein that was keeping me going. Abbigail was a mess. I had shared with you the devastation and fears I was facing as I watched her battle what I described as her worst relapse of OMS, something similar to the first days post diagnosis. My heart was in disbelief, but my gut and instinct told me she was ill. Any time Abbigail is nearing any infection, whether a cold, flu or urinary tract infection, I always “know” before any medical signs, symptoms or tests. I always speak as though I too am going through treatment, not to take away from the trauma our girl has experienced, but I feel connected to her in such a way that I feel her pain and truly know her on a level I can’t explain. I knew that despite her fevers, lab tests or vitals, that my daughter was not well. I was reassured over and over, as I rang the nurses bell or paged the doctors to return and exam her, that Abbigail is doing relatively well and that she shows no signs of infection. I was never reassured. I continued to monitor her vitals on my own, take lots of notes and continue to show concern to anyone who walked in our room. There were many long days and nights I feared for Abbigail, that her unique presentation would hinder her transplant recovery and possibly cause her irreparable consequences.

Tuesday morning after rounds, my instincts were confirmed; Abbigail’s virology lab work found she was fighting a dangerous viral infection that could threaten her life. My heart sank…the words mortality are too often spoken about on the transplant unit and when it is in context of your own child it is paralyzing. The “signs” and “symptoms” I was seeing over the past week were confirmed to be a result of her body trying to fight a virus that she didn’t have the ability to fight, hence the severe OMS. I have to explain that the medical professionals did not have grounds for worry because Abbigail did not have any scientific or medical evidence of infection…all she had was Mama’s instincts and knowledge; a three year honorary degree granted through a three year long, 24/7 placement in the field. Although doctors are aware of the rare possibility that because Abbigail has taken high doses of oral steroids twice daily for three years, that she may potentially not produce a “fever” to signal infection, they did not realize that this is what was happening over the last 10 days. Abbigail generally has a cool body temp and so when she hits 36.5-37F I know as her expert that she is likely fighting something. Anyways, she was indeed fighting something, and that something has her at it’s mercy.

Abbigail is at day 18 post transplant. Although every child is different, especially Abbigail, we expected her to have recovered by now, or at the very least begun engrafting to signal that her marrow has accepted the transplanted stem cells and is making it’s own cells. That hasn’t happened yet. So she still does not have the ability to fight any type of infection and remains in BMT isolation.

This virus is now taking over in her stern but frail body, and this week we found out it has infiltrated her organs and is passing through her stool and urine, indicating that it has progressed significantly this week.

She has begun treatment, however this treatment is also a huge risk and danger to her. The drug she is receiving, to help her body manage the virus, is a cytotoxic carcinogenic, which quite simply means it is toxic to her organs and is known to cause cancer. This drug causes kidney damage, resulting in dialysis or transplant and can be the cause of secondary cancers to her. You can probably safely assume that it was not easy hearing that the only treatment to potentially help our daughter fight and live against this virus was also likely to cause further damage and life altering morbidities. We started the treatment, along with the other precautionary medications, and although Abbigail is responding physically, the viral load is still increasing. This treatment will not kill the virus, the hope is that it will tame it enough to allow Abbigail to produce her own fighting cells to kill it off. This could potentially take weeks and months. The virus is killing her cells and the medication to tame the virus is also attacking her cells, making her weaker. Unfortunately, the only natural killer cells that kill this virus are the cells that we purposely eliminated from Abbigail’s immune system last year because they were the main cause of her OMS. Here Abbigail goes again paving her own path! The cells we killed to help her OMS are the cells we now need to save her life.

I have far too much medical information and knowledge about this and could write you a novel, but all you really need to know is that Abbigail needs your prayers. She is fighting hard! Between her resting and raging, crying and the doctors and nurses monitoring her, she still has moments of joy and that I am grateful for. She still shares her smile and screams for her favourite nurses to come sit by her side. She still shines and shares her spunk when she can.

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Halloween was a good day! Although she couldn’t leave her isolation room and participate in the hospital trick or treating events, she managed to lure the candy, treats and tricks to her bedside! She had a blast and when she finally settled and fell asleep she had a well rested night and smiled this morning as she woke!

The road may have gotten longer, darker and curvier, but Abbigail is a force that no one has ever witnessed before. She can beat this!

Thanks again everyone who has been messaging me, commenting on my quick posts and prayer requests. Thanks to so many people, organizations and groups who have been fundraising and donating (www.YouCaring.com/KissesForAbbigail), the burdens are easier to face with some extra help! Thank you to those who brought me snacks and “drinks” and also thanks to everyone who has been cheering Abbigail up daily with the mail they have been sending. Every morning she looks forward to checking her mailbox. Thank you!!!